Monday, December 22, 2014
Wednesday, December 17, 2014
Bill Cosby is NOT Cliff Huxtable - WAKE UP AMERICA! How Bill Cosby, Porn, & Rape Culture Are Intertwined
Initially posted on my website www.PornNewsToday.com
Alexandra Mayers fka Monica Foster commentary: Isn't it ironic that I starred in the porn parody Not The Cosbys XXX as Phylicia Rashad's character "Claire" ? She still hasn't said a word about the recent Bill Cosby allegations...but that's besides the point... Due to a statement released today by Bill Cosby's daughter Evin (click here to read) claiming "He is the FATHER you thought you knew", I tweeted the following words in response:
"Bill Cosby's daughter's statement is odd. She basically asks the public to view him as the fictional Cliff Huxtable.
I think that's the main problem. Bill Cosby IS NOT Cliff Huxtable. The show never should have been called The COSBY show. HE IS NOT CLIFF!
CLIFF HUXTABLE was not friends with Hugh Hefner. CLIFF HUXTABLE did not go to Playboy mansion orgies! Bill Cosby did that!
The public needs to understand the Bill Cosby situation is NOT about race or Black media. It's about a man's abuse of power in Hollywood."Bill Cosby is NOT Cliff Huxtable of The Cosby Show. The FACT that Bill Cosby is simply an ACTOR who played the fictional character of Cliff Huxtable is VERY IMPORTANT, because as of current the ONLY reason the American public who grew up watching The Cosby Show is having a hard time believing the allegations against Bill Cosby is due to the overlapping association between who Cosby REALLY is as a person versus the CHARACTER he played on this sitcom which was titled after his REAL name.
In hindsight, doesn't anyone else find it strange that The Cosby Show wasn't titled The Huxtables instead? 'Huxtable' (NOT Cosby) was the name of the family The Cosby Show centered around. There were not any characters on The Cosby Show named Cosby.
As of today, a Los Angeles county's District Attorneys office has made the announcement that it won't pursue child sexual abuse charges initially filed by Judy Huth (who was 15 years old in the year 1974 when the event allegedly occurred). Keep in mind, just because the District Attorney's office has chosen to cite the statute of limitation as a reason not to pursue these particular criminal allegations, doesn't mean the incident did not occur.
Judy Huth is NOT the only woman who has alleged that Bill Cosby molested her when she was a 15 year old minor. A woman by the name of Renita Chaney Hill, came forward last month with allegations that reflect that of Huth and several other alleged victims of Cosby (see the videos below).
Over the next couple of weeks, I will be releasing a special video blog series in regards to Bill Cosby, Hugh Hefner, Hollywood, Porn & Politics here on PornNewsToday and my associated website www.MonicaAtHome.com - I believe much of the issues the series will cover began 40 years ago in 1974, and it's time for the public to learn the truth of the lies they've been led to believe.
Sorry Bill Cosby, but you ain't getting any Black Media neutrality from this BLACK OWNED BLOG. The fact that you're even pulling the race card to distract from your despicable behavior makes me want to slap the pigment right off your old, ugly excuse of a face.
article below spotted on FightTheNewDrug.org
If you’ve ever laughed at Bill Cosby’s legendary comedy, like us, you’re probably pretty shocked about what’s going on right now. As of today, a total of 19 women have stepped forward accusing the beloved actor of various forms of sexual assault/rape between 1965 and 2004.
Now, let us be clear, like all people accused of crime in America, Cosby is innocent until proven guilty. But it’s hard to ignore so many individuals telling unsettlingly similar stories of being drugged and assaulted, all by the same man. How could this be happening? As someone that many grew up seeing as the all-american father figure on legendary TV sitcom The Cosby Show, Bill Cosby is a far cry from what we all think of when we picture a creepy, sketchy accused rapist. How could such a “nice guy” that “everyone loves” be accused of something like this?
Well, in a society where nearly 250,000 Americans report being sexually assaulted every year (with 60% of assaults never acknowledged), this is a question we should probably be talking about more often… Obviously, there is no single cause when it comes to sexual assault.
Psychology and human behavior is extremely complex – as are the contributing factors that lead to rape and sexual assault. However, according to the U.S. Center for Disease Control, we have scientifically proven tendencies that show if someone is more likely to force themselves on another person sexually.
Coercive sexual fantasies
Preference for impersonal sex
Hostility towards women
General tolerance of sexual violence within the community
Societal norms that support sexual violence
Societal norms that support male superiority and sexual entitlement
Societal norms that maintain women’s inferiority and sexual submissiveness.
These are the kinds of attitudes and behaviors that we know, scientifically, lead someone in the direction of sexual assault. But where do they all come from? How does someone develop “coercive sexual fantasies” to begin with? What about a preference for “impersonal sex” or a “more general acceptance of sexual violence?” And what are some of these “societal norms” that the CDC could be referencing?
We’ll give you one guess.
Studies have shown that exposure to pornography creates shockingly similar attitudes to those listed above. And while no one argues that pornography by itself leads to rape – especially since many who are exposed never get sexually aggressive – research has made clear that exposure to pornography creates the very attitudes that show up on lists of risk factors for sexual aggression. Once again, no single cause is the reason for any act of sexual assault – including those accused against Cosby.
However, it is worth noting that we do find it interesting that in light of the accusations, media outlets have begun digging into Bill Cosby’s friendship with Hugh Hefner, the founder of Playboy Magazine. After the two met in the early 1960’s, it’s been reported that since that time, Cosby was a regular at the Hefner’s parties at the Playboy mansion. Currently, three of the women making accusations towards Cosby have connections to Playboy.
We’ll leave that up to you on whether you find that coincidental or not. So, again, what leads the charismatic “nice guy” to be one who forces himself on unwilling women? The simple answer: lots of things. But as philosopher Robin Morgan once said, “pornography is the theory, rape is the practice.” Porn leads to harmful perceptions about rape and promotes its culture in society. This is not something we want to see have an influence in the world.
That’s why we Fight.
Thursday, December 04, 2014
Tuesday, November 25, 2014
Being that I feel 2015 will bring about positive change, I've opted to lay the groundwork in my own life by changing how I think a bit.
Tonight the Ferguson, Missouri officer Darren Wilson was not indicted by a grand jury. Many people are reacting very badly to the situation and my initial reaction was no exception. As an African-American (Black) woman I've always been EXTREMELY aware of racial, ethnic, cultural and religious differences...
Growing up in the environment which I did (in a predominantly "White" neighborhood) was the first phase of my life that shaped my perspective of what it is to be "Black". Later in my early teens my point of view was altered by my mother moving my sister and I to the "melting pot" that is South-East Florida. In my late 20's to early 30's I had a rude awakening as to how segregated "Blacks" and "Whites" truly still are (and the extremely bigoted mindset many Americans still embody) when I entered the adult entertainment industry in Los Angeles, California.
Realizing the hate many Americans still feel towards African-American's (Blacks) didn't effect me well... Tonight I honestly feel "hate" is a sort of "emotional virus"...a virus which I inadvertently caught.
I specifically became very angry and hateful towards those of the Jewish faith due to having been personally targeted and attacked by a small group of Jewish people over the past few years. I don't feel I was completely taken over by the "hate virus", being that tonight I've come to terms with the fact that I need to make a conscious effort to change for the better, but none the less I did fall victim to it.
I'm a strong believer in the power of manifestation through thought. I've experienced it's occurrence in my own life, so I feel that it's time for me to step it up a notch by no longer inadvertently manifesting outcomes through the emotion of hate.
I've made the decision tonight to no longer focus on elements I dislike in regards to race, ethnicity, culture or religion. I acknowledge that the difference do exist, but at least for now I will not focus on the differences. I will not delete any of my past blogs, websites, posts or creative works I've made on the subject matter up to the present because 1) it's a part of my personal evolution I want to share with the public and 2) neither I or anyone else can erase the past. I CAN and WILL however make an effort to do better & create far more positive works in the future (as I hope whoever you are that's reading this opt to do as well).
I'm just one mind, but I have a strong mind and I wield a certain degree of influence over others, so I need to be far more responsible with what I think and what I share. I believe we can manifest a far better world through the power of thought - which is why we need to make a deliberate effort to control within ourselves what we think and how we feel (for the greater good of everyone and everything).
Friday, November 07, 2014
Sunday, October 12, 2014
Increase the minimum age to legally perform in pornographic content from 18 to at least 21 (ideally 25)
As of current, the minimum age to perform in pornographic content in the United States of America is only 18 years old even though an individual generally can not legally consume alchohol in America until they are a minimum of 21 years old (due to the action contributing to "public health problems" according to the United States Center for Disease Control : http://www.cdc.gov/alcohol/fact-sheets/mlda.htm ).
I am under the belief that the minimum age to perform in pornographic media (adult content) needs to be raised to at least 21 years old as well considering that the act of appearing in pornographic content is often a decision that dramatically alters the course of an individual's life in the following ways:
1) Personally (once an individual performs in an adult movie, the general public's perception more often than not of the individual is viewed negatively)
2) Psychologically (individuals who leave the porn industry often suffer from a form of post traumatic stress disorder)
3) Professionally (future employment prospects are dramatically minimalized after having appeared in pornographic content)
4) Physiologically (the majority of pornographic industry performers contract both curable and incurable sexually transmitted diseases and infections such as Herpes, Chlamydia and HIV - which can easily be spread to the general public which creates a major public health risk)
As of current, I believe the demand for pornographic actors and actresses under the age of 21 is a result of the pornographic industry capitalizing off of the "barely legal" and/or "teen" genera of adult content which is rooted in the crime of pedophilia (child abuse, child pornography and child sextrafficking). In fact, the "political face" of the pornographic industry (the Free Speech Coalition) was found to be affiliated with an internationally known convicted pedophile (who at the time was attached to the Libertarian Party of Nevada) and attorneys who openly defend "pedophiles rights".
As of recent (October 4, 2013), a top pornographer by the name of Axel Braun announced that he would no longer film women under the age of 21 for sexually explicit roles. A well known adult entertainment industry blogger by the name ofMike South (who has been profiled by CNBC) stated that "in many ways" he agreed with Axel Braun's stance on the issue.
According to recent neurological studies (documented by the University of Rochester medical center and leading psychiatrists such as Jay Geidd), the human brain does not fully mature until approximately the age of 25, so from my perspective an individual is not physiologically capable of making a mature and rational decision as to whether or not to perform in pornographic content at the age of 18.
I believe the only reason this issue hasn't been addressed more adamantly in the past is due to those who control the economics of the pornographic industry routinely putting profits above the health, well being and safety of pornographic industry performers (a routine practice that California Assemblymember Isadore Hall III noted many times throughout his efforts to pass legislation such as AB1576 which would have dramatically protected the health, safety and lives of countless pornographic industry performers).
As both an active performer and an ex pornstar, I have witnessed and spoken with several individuals who entered the pornographic industry under the age of 21 who I do not believe would have made the decision to perform in pornographic content were they presented with the opportunity at a later age. Please sign this petition and help make a positive change in the lives of thousands of young people who are reliant on the laws of the United States of America to protect them (due to not having anyone in their immediate lives to look after them) and our society as a whole.
Tuesday, September 23, 2014
It doesn't matter whether or not your actions are viewed as being "worth the time and effort" to anyone else but YOU. Don't feel guilty about taking into account YOUR OWN feelings just as much as you do the feelings of others.
Have a great week :)
Monday, September 15, 2014
Episode 01 features parody of Britney Spears, David Lucado, Shelley Lubben, Callie Lee, Xander Corvus and many more public figures that you'll have to identify on your own...
Sunday, September 07, 2014
Welcome to the launch "Jewacre" - a new animated parody series from the mind of Alexandra Mayers (formerly known as Monica Foster).
Jewacre will relate much of the truth of the Los Angeles porn industry in an insightful, educational & comedic way. This series may get a bit vulgar at times, however the character it is built on was inspired by a man who has harassed, terrorized, stalked and bullied Alexandra for over 3 years...if you were to encounter this man, you would quickly realize that there is no amount of vulgarity an animated series can illustrate that compares to his actuality.
If you have followed the blogs of Alexandra Mayers fka Monica Foster over the years, then you know that much of what she's lived has taken her to the edge of sanity. In effort to continue her healing process, Alexandra has elected to utilize her artistic skills and uniquely dark sense of humor to relate in an easy to understand way exactly how the organized crime elements of the adult film industry nearly destroyed her and several others she's met on her journey into, and then later out of, porn.
Saturday, September 06, 2014
The other night I had an emotional episode that concluded with a realization in regards to the element of "trauma bonding" that I probably wasn't ready to face in the past. Read my commentary here to get an idea as to what I'm referring to.
When people talk about "love", they really should be more specific, because there's "healthy love" vs. "dysfunctional love". Unless you've experienced "healthy love" apart from the "dysfunctional" version, it's hard to know the difference.
My time in the porn industry was the final catalyst for a cycle that I needed to break - a cycle that I'd been trapped within for much of my life. The porn industry enabled me to learn a lot about relationships, friendships, business, the seedy "underbelly" of society, and life in general. I stand by my research and commentary in regards to the pornographic industry and would never suggest anyone enter that world.
However, the pornographic industry is not the ONLY "world" out there that can be a catalyst for someone stuck in a dysfunctional way of living and being.
I'm sure many will disagree with me on this, but I think one of the most selfish things a person can do, is to have children. It's actually quite the narcissistic act. Being that I feel this way, I think that it's a parent's obligation to be completely selfless in regards to their children once they're born and throughout their life. In other words, parents need to make responsible choices and live their life right the moment they have a baby. They shouldn't enter dangerous situations or circumstances (or do stupid things in general). Parents are their children's LIFE LINE and from my perspective their life should be 100% about their children. No child makes the DECISION to be born - that's the parent's CHOICE (whether or not certain choices are really meant to be is debatable - I don't think anyone on Earth really knows the answer).
If you can't find it within yourself to be completely selfless when it comes to any children you're considering bringing into this world - DO NOT BREED.
I was thinking today about whether or not people I've had contact with in life would be better off had they never met me...if I'd never been born. Don't get me wrong - I am NOT in a suicidal state of mind or anything...it's just something I was thinking about - and not just in regards to people that I love or like, but in regards to people I dislike, who are my enemies or who I've never even met as well.
I guess I was contemplating "the ripple effect".
Today in a brief conversation with Jesus Christ, I prayed for everyone I've ever come into contact with to simply to be happy if God see's that it should be that way. I prayed that certain individuals completely forget that they ever met me. I also asked Jesus Christ to approach God about removing me from any of life's equations which I wasn't designed to be a part of so that in time, I can slide into place where ever it is that I belong.
A part of the reason that I remain single and don't like to interact with many people personally nowadays is not so much due to my fear of getting hurt, but because I don't want to inadvertently hurt others anymore than I may have in the past.
I was created through what I believe to have been a very selfish energy. I'm not the only one who has been, but I think acknowledging the reality of "selfish energy" is the first step. Today I broke my bond with a large portion of that energy, and I'm very happy about it.
Free will - God's greatest gift IMO.
Wednesday, September 03, 2014
Regardless, I feel that in order for me to be able to fully heal and properly love (and respect) myself, I'm making the right decision to do what I'm doing. So far, it's been painful but I feel I'm making progress.
One of the elements that really makes me angry in regards to the man I'm referring to, is that HE KNEW the realities of the pornographic industry and DID NOT TELL ME (and he had ample opportunity to do so, as I asked him questions about many issues in regards to the porn industry while I was with him). This particular man had worked in the business for around 20 years - so he knew the truth VERY well, but he apparently was OK in regards to the abuse that occurs regularly in that world, which the public only recently has become aware of.
KNOWING NOW what I know, and KNOWING NOW what he knew - it disgusts me that I was with him. I wasn't blind, I was naive - and he was predatory. I'm completely incapable of understanding how any individual with a heart and soul could remain in that environment as long as he has without taking a stand in regards to the mistreatment of human beings. That's the thing though - I suppose God didn't create me to be capable of understanding such a mindset (thankfully).
As of today I'm very ANGRY that people such as him exist. I WISH HE DID NOT EXIST.
The man I'm referring to, from my perspective, is extraordinarily dangerous because he is able to keep up the appearance of being a "nice guy" and "harmless", but has no issue with turning a blind eye to the physical and spiritual abuse of human beings. I'm starting to wonder exactly how involved (personally and directly) he has been in the destruction of other women who have crossed his path over the years. It makes me literally shudder to think about.
In order to cope with the anger I've been feeling, I decided to construct a sort of distraction and outlet for my emotions. I built www.MMAoutline.com - visit the site to learn what it's about. At the end of the week I'm treating myself to my first UFC fight pass and I'm excited about it.
A part of me wishes I could beat the living hell out of the man I'm referring to in this blog, but it's really not my style to do such a thing (I've never been a physically violent person) - so watching MMA matches really helps me...I find it incredibly therapeutic.
Do I fantasize that the man I'm referring to in this blog posting is one of the contenders getting the crap beat out of him as I watch MMA? Absolutely...perhaps MMA is a sort of "porn" for women who are rather upset with certain men. If you're a woman out there who's walked a path similar to mine - take a look at the world of MMA - you might find it INCREDIBLY appealing :)
Saturday, August 30, 2014
In the past, when I've mentioned this man, certain people (who I label as my stalkers) have bullied me into silence about him. I'm not allowing that to happen anymore, because there's something about that man and that time of my life that I know in my core needs to be addressed and resolved.
As of tonight, I attribute my lack of ability to clear this man from my thoughts being due to some issues and events surrounding the relationship that were extraordinarily abnormal on a multitude of levels. As I've stated in my blog several times in the past, one of the most difficult things one must do in life, is to look at THEMSELVES and at their PAST honestly. I've reached a point in my self imposed healing process to where I feel brave enough to really THINK about and EVALUATE some of the memories in regards to the man I'm referring to. I'm hoping God will provide me with some answers as well.
I will share a lot about whatever I realize, but I doubt I will share everything. Research "trauma-bonding" - here's a link to get your started: http://avalancheofthesoul.wordpress.com/2014/02/22/what-abusers-hope-we-never-learn-about-trauma-bonding/
Abuse isn't always physical or "in your face" psychological. I've come to understand that my "scars" from abuse have manifested in my actions and choices. I don't believe abusers always realize that they abuse. Other times people who are on the receiving end of abuse don't realize that they're being abused. I feel that there are instances to where people have been in unhealthy and/or dysfunctional relationships (or maybe just ways of living) for so long that they have no concept of what "normal" or "healthy" really is - so they become desensitized. I think it's even possible for people to habitually and KNOWINGLY REJECT a healthy or normal relationship for a dysfunctional one, because the dysfunction FEELS more FAMILIAR than anything else (I believe, in part, what's happened to me).
I hate already being 35 years old and just now identifying some of these issues, but I subscribe to the philosophy of "better late than never". I'm glad I don't have any children at this time, and I hope I get through this process relatively quickly. I believe I've reached my final step in closing the book on a phase of my life I began in early 2008.
I know my sharing my thoughts as I do is strange to certain people in my life (or who I may never have met). I do it because I don't believe that I have been (or will be) the only woman in the world to have dealt with some of the situations, people and events which I have. I find it comforting to think that my blogs just might give someone else out there a reference point as to where they are on the map of life.
Yes, my blogs are selfless - yet selfish. Funny how that is...isn't it.
Saturday, August 16, 2014
Wednesday, August 06, 2014
The Protection Order was issued through the Nevada courts against me by default (I was unable to attend the hearing), and the order request was based solely on non-direct Tweets & a piece of artistic parody (a First Amendment issue).
In response, I filed an Early Court Conference Report outlining the situation. A few days later, the opposing counsel AGAIN has attempted to coerce me into violating the CLEARLY STATED TERMS of the Protection Order - a violation which would result in my being charged with a FELONY (which would result in my imprisonment from one to twenty years).
Objection To Notice of Early Case Conference
Objection To Notice of Early Case Conference exhibit A
Objection To Notice of Early Case Conference exhibits B - J
Objection To Notice of Early Case Conference exhibit F
Download the following court documents above (in their entirety) to learn about the situation.
This is a perfect example as to how individuals are routinely silenced at all costs (even by "legitimate" attorneys) when they speak out in regards to situations such as organized crime & civil rights in our society (in my particular situation, I've been in activist in regards to informing the public and individuals in government positions about why certain legislation should be enforced and passed to protect the health and safety of adult film performers).
The Protection Order which was issued to me clearly states:
“You are prohibited, either directly or through an agent, from contacting, intimidating, using, attempting to use, or threatening the use of physical force or otherwise interfering in any way with Applicant [redacted] and/or the following persons: [redacted], [redacted], [redacted] including, but not limited to, in person, by telephone, through the mail, through electronic mail (e-mail), text messaging, facsimile, or through another person”.
It is NOT good enough (or legally binding) for the opposing counsel to simply state that they would not consider my attendance or communication with them as a breech of the Protection Order terms. The opposing counsel DOES NOT have such authority. ONLY A JUDGE of the NEVADA, UNITED STATES OF AMERICA COURT system has the authority to define (and change) the terms of the Protection Order issued against me (if they determine they should do so).
Below you can see exactly who in (and attached) to the Los Angeles, California pornographic industry had interest in coercing me into being charged with a felony: porn director Jeff Mullen aka Will Ryder, porn camera man Matthew Holder and porn disinformation figure Ari Bass aka Michael Whiteacre.